Success (part 2)

The world’s view of success is often tainted and twisted, coercing people to chase after shallow and material possessions. While there is nothing wrong with having things like a nice home or a luxury vehicle, no one will ever be truly content without God in their lives. Non-spiritual gain does not fulfill the deep desires of the soul. The joy of the Lord is what gives us supernatural strength amidst life’s challenges (Nehemiah 8:10), and only Jesus can bring us a true peace that surpasses our circumstances (Philippians 4:7). Riches received on earth are futile, as well as exterior beauty, as both are fleeting. This is why the Bible urges, "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal (Matthew 6:19-20).”

In Christ we are able to take the steps necessary to have a genuinely successful life, where we fulfill our true calling. First, you must make the decision to give your life to Christ. In Him we are granted forgiveness for our sins, guaranteed eternal life (John 3:16), and allowed access to God (John 14:6). Once you have made the decision to give your life to Christ, you are adopted into God’s family. In 2 Corinthians 6:18 the Lord says, "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters." Despite what you may have been told growing up or from certain religious denominations, God is not mad at you. He loves us deeply, with an everlasting love that draws us to Him (Jeremiah 31:3), and we are precious and valuable in His sight. He is a Holy God who hates sin and cannot be in its presence, but once we give our lives to Christ, we become a new creation in Him. Our old lives are gone, as God gives us a clean slate.

The second step you need to take, after you give your life to Christ, is to follow the Him. Jesus said, “many are invited, but few are chosen (Matthew 22:14).” Anyone can say that they believe in and love Jesus, but only a few truly follow Him. Jesus said, “Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven (Matthew 7:21).” Accepting Jesus into your heart and life is only the beginning. Following Him takes faith, obedience, trust, discipline, and courage. If you are committed to following Christ, then your life will change. Often times, the changes that take place in our lives when we follow Jesus are dramatic. You may have to make difficult decisions like letting go of ungodly relationships, quitting a job or a career that doesn’t glorify God, or give up ungodly habits and behaviors. Being a Christian is not always easy, but it is definitely worth it. When you are tempted to sin or give up walking with the Lord, stand firm and hang in there. God will never give you more than you can handle (1 Corinthians 10:13). Fellowship with God daily by reading His Word, praying, worshiping Him, attending church and growing in your walk with Him.

After you give your life to Christ and begin to follow Him, take the next step to being successful and fulfilling your true calling. What’s the next step? Open your heart and prepare it to listen to God’s voice. Prayer is a two way street. While God wants to hear and answer our prayers, He also wants to speak to us. The way to discover God’s will and plan for your life is to be open to His voice. Make time to go before the Lord and hear what He has to say to you. Be sure to keep in mind that God will sometimes use others to speak to you, as well. Be open to hearing what other godly men or women say to you. Sometimes what someone else speaks in to your life will be a confirmation of what God has already revealed to you. I strongly recommend getting away from the distractions in your life and taking time to fast and pray. When you focus solely on time with God and hearing His voice, you will hear Him clearly. How amazing and powerful that Christian’s are able to hear the voice of the Creator of the Universe! When you take time to think about that, it can really blow your mind. So take the next step to successfully fulfilling and pursuing your true calling by listening to God’s voice and following where He leads you! He has a plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11), and He doesn’t want you to guess or wonder what it is. He wants to reveal His plan to you!

When I was a newly born again woman I wanted to know what direction God wanted me to take. I knew that He had given me gifts and talents, but I wanted to live my life by using my gifts and talents for His glory, and following the true calling He had for me. I followed the Holy Spirit inside of me and the best decision that I made was walking away from a job and a career that I enjoyed. That may sound odd, but I knew there was more to life than having a job as an Executive Assistant and Fashion Coordinator, and pursuing a career as an actress and singer. I was on fire for Jesus, I wanted to go deeper, and I knew that God also wanted me to. Although I had spent my entire life entertaining, I knew God had placed a special call on my life. Right after I quit my job, I went away for a week and fasted. I took this time to pray and listen intently to God. He encouraged me, comforted me, strengthened me, and gave me guidance, as well as told me about beautiful blessings that were in store for me. It was one of the most amazing and sacred experiences of my entire life. God took my life in an unexpected and wonderful direction. I met and married my husband, moved to a new city and joined a great church. Today I use my talent of singing for His glory at my church, and I am able to use my gifts for His glory, as well. I am in full time ministry, as a co-founder of an outreach ministry with my husband, servant in various areas of ministry at my church, and missionary. I know that I am living out the call that God has placed on my life. I never imagined my life would go in this direction, but I am so thankful to God that He has made it possible. The world may not think my life is very glamorous, but I am content, joyful and at peace, knowing that I am living out my true calling. I hope my story encourages and inspires you to be all that God has called you to be!

There are several steps that you can take, in order to be successful and fulfill your true calling. First, give your life to Christ. Second, truly follow Christ by obeying His commands and being surrendered to God. Next, open your heart, listen to God’s voice, and follow where He leads you. There is more that you can do, in order to ensure that you are successful and fulfilling your calling in life, so continue reading the blog’s for this week.

Success

Our world and our culture are flooded with images of what the mass media says is a sexy, successful, and worthwhile life. It seems if we have a big house, nice cars, designer clothes, booming careers, and an attractive physical appearance, then we have achieved success. While there is nothing wrong with having these things, if these are the only things that bring contentment, then why are so many people unhappy and unfulfilled? The answer can be found when we take a deeper look at our lives and realize that we will never fulfill our true calling and be content without God directing our paths. No one can chase after shallow desires and possess true peace and joy. Only in Christ are we able to understand that the joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10) and attain peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), regardless of our circumstances. Only in Christ are we able to be truly successful in this life.

There are several steps that you can take, in order to ensure that you are successful and that you fulfill your true calling. The first decision you need to make is to give your life to Jesus Christ. It is only by faith in Jesus that anyone can be forgiven for the sins that they have committed, and have the assurance of eternal life in Heaven (John 3:16). There are so many religions in the world, but it is not through religion that we are able to gain access to God. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God and are able to have a relationship with Him. Jesus said, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me (John 14:6).” Jesus did not say, “I am one of the ways to God.” Jesus said that He is “the way” and that no one comes to God except through Him. In fact, Christianity is the only world religion that does not tell people that they can reach God through their own efforts and good works. If reaching God and Heaven was dependent on what we do, then how would we ever know if we were good enough? No one can ever be certain of salvation, unless they choose to follow Jesus. Jesus is the Only Way, and His blood, shed on the cross for our sins, is what makes us worthy of God and Heaven.

After we give our lives to Christ, something supernatural takes place. At the moment that we receive Jesus into our hearts and lives, we become a child of God. God adopts us into His family. Ephesians 1:4-5 says that God “chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight. In love He predestined us to be adopted as His sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will.” This tells us that God already planned to have you in His family and for you to be His child, before the world was even created! In 2 Corinthians 6:18 the Lord says, "I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters." When we commit our lives to the Lord, we become His children, and He becomes our Father. He is not a distant, angry God that is mad at us, shaking His fists, like some religious denominations would like people to believe. He loves us deeply with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3) that we cannot even fully comprehend. Our lives are precious and valuable to Him! Once you give your life to Christ, not only will you have access to God, the ability to have a relationship with Him (Father, Son and Holy Spirit), and eternal life, but you are now a child of God with a new life in Christ that has a calling and a purpose.

After accepting Christ and being adopted into God’s family, the next step you need to take is to follow the Lord. There are many people who label themselves as Christians but do not truly follow Christ. Following Jesus means laying down the life you were living (in sin and to your flesh) and giving your life over in complete surrender by obeying the commands that God has given us and living for God’s will. Accepting Jesus might be easy for some people, but following Him is a little more difficult. If you are serious about walking with the Lord, you will have to make changes in your life. Being in fellowship with God should be your number one priority. Spend time with God by praying, listening to His voice, reading the Bible, fasting, attending church, and worshiping Him. Know what His Word says and follow the commands that God has laid out for all believers, in order to live a pure, godly life that glorifies the Lord.

You may have to let go of unhealthy or ungodly relationships, give up ungodly behaviors, make new friends with other believers, or even quit a job or a career that isn’t in synch with what you know is God’s plan for you, but hang in there. When you are tempted and want to give up, remember that God is there with you in the trenches, and He will never give you more than you can bear. “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (1 Corinthians 10:13).” A lot of things in your life will probably change dramatically. You will not be the same person that you used to be, because the Holy Spirit lives inside of you, and God is renewing your mind. Your life will take on a new direction, but remain in faith and stay on course, no matter how difficult or challenging the road may get. Nothing will be impossible for you, if you believe, have faith and trust God (Marks 9:23; Matthew 17:20).

There are several steps that you can take, in order to ensure that you are successful and that you fulfill your true calling. The first step that you should take is to give your life to Christ. The second step that you should take is to follow Christ by obeying His commands, and being surrendered to God. There is more that you can do, in order to ensure that you are successful in this life and that you are fulfilling your calling, so continue reading the blog’s for this week.

Anger vs. Sin (part 5)

“Anger vs. Sin” has been the topic this week. We are able to see from Ephesians 4:26 and Psalm 4:4 that anger in and of itself is not a sin, but we are called not to let the sun go down, as well as be still an search our hearts, when we are angry. Even though anger is a natural human emotion, as well as an emotion that God Himself feels, we have to make a choice not to sin by taking our anger a step further (rage, fury, malice, hate, bitterness, resentment, un-forgiveness, etc.). Keep in mind, as well, that God is not easily angered and His anger lasts only momentarily (Psalm 30:5). It’s important that we are imitators of God (Ephesians 5:1) by choosing not to be easily angered and learning to let go of our anger in a timely manner. In her book, “Be Angry But Don’t Blow It,” Lisa Bevere states, “Anger in and of itself is not wrong, but rage and fury escalate it into the dimension of the destructive.” Choose to bear the fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23) and walk in love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). God has already given us all that we need to live a godly life (2 Peter 1:3). We have no excuse not to grow spiritually, even though the process can be painful sometimes.

Although there may be times when we have a right to be angry, we never have the right to take revenge on someone who has harmed us or someone that we love. Revenge is up to the Lord, and He is the only one who is just enough to Judge (Romans 12:19). Sometimes Christian’s experience “righteous anger,” when we see injustice taking place in the world. This comes from the Holy Spirit. We should be revolutionary in our efforts by doing our part to stamp out injustice, bring awareness and make wrongs right, however, we should do so peacefully without causing harm of any kind to someone else. We should never fight hate with hate or evil with evil.

We have no right to judge others (Matthew 5:1). Even if we are angry because of what someone has done or how they are living, we need to leave the ultimate judgment up to God. However, be wise in the company that you keep. Surround yourself with friends who will sharpen you and help you grow in your walk with God. The Bible tells us to be equally yoked with other believers. While we shouldn’t be in deep and intimate fellowship with unbelievers, we can and should shine our light, witness to them, show them love, invite them to church, and so on. Jesus doesn’t want us to be worldly, but He also doesn’t want to take us out of the world. Make wise decisions about your relationships, but do not judge.

“An integral part of being angry and not sinning is knowing when to let go of your anger (Lisa Bevere).” Holding on to anger for too long can cause bitterness, resentment, un-forgiveness, and other ungodly thoughts and feelings to spring up inside of you. Don’t allow the Devil access to your life by holding on to things that are ungodly (1 Peter 5:8). Be quick to resolve disputes, disagreements or feelings of anger. Take the time to be still and search your heart. Ask God to lead you and guide you to the truth. What are you feeling angry about? What is the true reason behind your anger? Are you at fault for any portion of your current situation? Do you need to forgive someone or ask them to forgive you? Take an honest look at what is going on, when you feel angry. “Allow God to reveal Himself in the midst of your pain, conflict or crisis (Lisa Bevere).” When we don’t take the time to evaluate what is going on in and around us, then we are easily lead astray and ensnared by sin.

James 1:12-14 says, “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.” All of us are tempted, and all of us sin, but remember that God is merciful and always willing to forgive you, when you ask Him for forgiveness. Try your best to learn from your mistakes and grow in your spiritual walk. None of us should have to go around the same mountain over and over again. Every time you encounter a situation where you are angry and feel tempted to sin in your anger, take a step back from the situation. Those of us who are in Christ can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.

Be aware that any bitterness that you hold in your heart will defile you (Hebrews 12:15). According to Lisa Bevere, “the root of bitterness chokes the nourishing seedlings of the Word of God.” This is one reason why the Bible tells us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23). “Bitter roots cause trouble, and they defile. Something that once was pure is contaminated, tainted, adulterated, and corrupted. Our tender hearts, carefully planted with good seed, are permeated by tenacious roots of destructive and bitter poison (Lisa Bevere).” In Ephesians 4:31-32, Paul warns us and instructs us to “get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Living for our flesh will reap corruption, but when we sow to the Spirit, we will reap life. Be mindful of your words, thoughts, and actions towards others, because they can be used as weapons when you are angry.

How can we let go of un-forgiveness and bitterness? “The secret to ridding yourself of a root of bitterness is to forgive and release those who have deeply wounded you (Lisa Bevere).” Forgiveness is not always an easy thing do, but it is a command that God has given us, and we need to obey God, despite our circumstances. As a matter of fact, the Bible tells us that when we don’t forgive others, then God won’t forgive us (Matthew 6:14-15). When we forgive others, we don’t just set them free, we set ourselves free!

If you are dealing with anger issues and don’t have peace in your life or within yourself, then ask yourself why. What is the cause of chaos that you feel or face? In the light of God’s Word, examine your life. Jesus has given us His peace (John 14:27). If we want to have peace, then we need to seek it and pursue it (Psalm 34:14). “Receive His peace and let it still your anger and fear (Lisa Bevere).” Has anger become your armor to protect yourself from getting hurt? Do you need to learn how to let your guard down with godly people that you can trust? Pray and ask God to help you in overcoming your anger, and ask Him to bring people into your life that you can trust. You can overcome unhealthy anger! Allow yourself to get out of your comfort zone and allow God to test you in the furnace of affliction for a season (Isaiah 48:10). Nothing will be impossible for you, if you believe (Mark 9:23).

If you sin in your anger, don’t try to conceal it. God sees everything anyway, and He loves you and wants to heal your life. “Confession illuminates or brings to light an issue (Lisa Bevere).” Confess your sins to God, ask Him for forgiveness and allow Him to renew you. “We remove areas of darkness in our lives by allowing the blood of Jesus to cleanse us (Lisa Bevere).” Don’t live your life in condemnation. Jesus didn’t die for us so that we would walk around feeling condemned. He wants to set us free. “Jesus purifies those who confess (Lisa Bevere).” You cannot grow, if you are unwilling to be honest about an anger issue that you or a loved one has. We can only deal with what is wrong in our lives when we admit it and seek help. Take a look at areas of your life where there is unresolved conflict (whether internally or externally). Make a decision to resolve conflict in a Biblical way. You have to make a choice to let go of the things in your life that are unhealthy. Be willing to release others and yourself from un-forgiveness and anger.

If you or someone you love is struggling with anger, I highly recommend the book “Be Angry But Don’t Blow It,” by Lisa Bevere.

Anger vs. Sin (part 4)

This week, “Anger vs. Sin” has been the topic. Although anger is not a sin, what we sometimes choose to do in our anger is. Ephesians 4:26 and Psalm 4:4 instruct us not to sin in anger, not to let the sun go down while we’re angry (deal with anger in a timely manner), and to search our hearts. God can relate to our feelings of anger, because He feels this emotion as well. However, He wants to lead us and guide, in order to help us make wise and healthy decisions in our lives.

When we are angry, we are not to take revenge on anyone (Romans 12:19). The Bible tells us that we should persevere under trials and temptation (James 1:12-14), forgive others (Matthew 6:14-15), and walk in love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8), bearing the fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23). The apostle Paul instructed us in Ephesians 4:31-32, “get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” We cannot be effective for God’s Kingdom if we are holding on to anger. We need to learn to let go of anger in a timely manner and deal with our feelings in healthy ways.

It is important to bear in mind that we are also not to judge others, no matter what the circumstance may be (Matthew 7:1). When we judge others, we will also be judged, and when we don’t forgive others, then God will not forgive us. “We have permission to be angry when there is a cause, but never to be destructive or punitive (Lisa Bevere).” If you are struggling with anger, then talk to God and someone you can trust about what you are going through. Seek Biblical solutions and make the decision not to harbor unhealthy anger in your life.

Lisa Bevere gave good advice about anger in her book “Be Angry But Don’t Blow It!” One piece of advice that Lisa gave was, “Receive His peace and let it still your anger and fear.” Jesus has given us His peace (John 14:27), but we also have to seek it and pursue it (Psalm 34:14). We also need to take time to be still and listen to God’s voice, pray, have quiet time and fellowship with the Lord. Our culture is obsessed with being busy, but when we busy ourselves with too many things then we often miss out on time with our loved ones and time with the Lord. If you don’t have peace in your life, then examine what is going on around you, and make the decision to change, set boundaries and seek peace. Take care of yourself and know that dealing with your anger and having peace will not only benefit others, it will greatly benefit you.

Sometimes we use anger as armor to protect ourselves. Often times we have been used, abused or hurt by people, and we don’t want to let our guard down. However, you don’t have to spend your life living with anger and guarding yourself from intimacy. Pray that God will bring godly people into your life that you can trust, and He will. Also, keep in mind that if you want to receive mercy, then you need to give mercy to others. If you are angry with someone, you have an opportunity to step out in faith and extend mercy to them, instead of using anger as armor for your own protection. What we sow, we reap. Not only will you be acting in faith and obedience, when you sow mercy to others, but you will reap the benefits of acting mercifully. It’s a win, win situation! In her book “Be Angry But Don’t Blow It,” Lisa Bevere talks about when she came to know Christ and states, “I was so overwhelmingly aware of the mercy I had received that I was quick to extend mercy to others.”

Allow God to test you in the “furnace of affliction” (Isaiah 48:10), and use moments of anger in your life as opportunities for spiritual growth. Get out of your comfort zone and start doing things differently. “God is more concerned with our condition than our comfort (Lisa Bevere).” Don’t justify bad behavior, when you sin in anger. Be honest about the mistakes that you make and humble yourself before the Lord. Ask Him for forgiveness when you sin in anger, and ask Him to show you how to handle situations in your life where you feel angry. It’s not always going to be easy. Sometimes you will fail but sometimes you will succeed! Just keep working at it, and eventually it will get easier. Just as easily as you developed the habit of sinning in anger, you can break the habit of sinning in anger. Learn to obey the Spirit and not your flesh. Follow God’s commands and seek other help if you need to. You can overcome anger issues. Nothing is impossible if you only believe (Mark 9:23).

Anger vs. Sin (part 3)

When we look at anger from a Biblical perspective, we can see that anger in and of itself is not a sin. Sin is what happens when we act out in or react to anger. Ephesians 4:26 and Psalm 4:4 give us clear direction, when it comes to anger. Ephesians 4:26 tells us that we have the right to be angry (“Be angry”), but it encourages us not to sin in our anger. It also encourages us to deal with anger in a timely manner (“do not let the sun go down on your wrath”). Psalm 4:4 also encourages us not to sin in our anger, and it instructs us to search our hearts and be silent, when we are faced with anger.

It is clear that anger is a natural human emotion, and it is an emotion that God feels as well. Because the Holy Spirit lives inside of us, we as Christian’s will often feel righteous anger, when we see injustice taking place in the world. However, we need to remember that even though we may feel angry (even righteously), we are not to take revenge against anyone. Revenge is God’s job, and we need to leave this up to the only true and just Judge (Romans 12:19). It is important that we know when to let go of our anger. If we don’t, our anger can turn into un-forgiveness, bitterness and resentment, and we have been commanded not to sin in our anger. We need to obey God, as well as bear the fruit of love and self-control, and live our lives in a manner that pleases and glorifies the Lord. Holding on to anger and sinning because of it does not accomplish this goal.

We are able to see how anger turns into sin when we realize that words, thoughts, and actions can actually be used as weapons against others. Therefore, we need to be mindful of our behavior and take time to cool down, when we experience anger in our lives. Nothing good will ever come from losing your cool. It is easy for us to be tempted into sinning, when we are angry. However, if we endure and pass the test of temptation during these times, then God will bless us. James 1:12-14 says, “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.” We can make the choice not to sin when we are angry, if we remain aware of our behavior and stay connected to the Lord.

Remember that when anger turns into hate, then we are just as bad as a murderer, according to Jesus (1 John 3:15). Also, if we are unwilling to forgive others, then God will not forgive the sins in our own lives (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiving others is an essential step in following Jesus. We show love, grace and mercy to others, when we forgive, not to mention the fact that we are being obedient to God, and ridding our internal state of toxicity. We are waging a spiritual war, and when we choose not to sin (in anger or in general), then we are giving glory to God. Please know that I am not insinuating that we have the ability to live a sinless life. We don’t. Only Christ lived the perfect, sinless life, but it is because of His shed blood and sacrifice for our sins, that we are able to be made right and made brand new when we sin, as we seek God’s forgiveness. In Ephesians 4:31-32 Paul warns us to “get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Paul then goes on to instruct us to love and forgive each other. When we forgive others, we set them and ourselves free.

An important thing to note when we are angry is that we are not the judge. Only God has the right to judge, and He will judge us…all of us (including ourselves). “Judging is an attempt to absolve ourselves of guilt (Lisa Bevere).” Matthew 7:1 warns us that when we judge others, we will also be judged. When it comes to anger, often times “we will pass judgment on others to try to justify our un-forgiveness or rage with them (Lisa Bevere).” This is not ok, nor will it ever be. When you justify sinning because of what someone else has done to you, you are being spiritually immature by not taking responsibility for your own actions. We need to grow up in Christ and know who He has called us to be in Him. “We have permission to be angry when there is a cause, but never to be destructive or punitive (Lisa Bevere).” Sometimes the issue of our anger can be a matter of us letting go of our own pride and humbling ourselves. Don’t forget to take the time to examine why you are angry. Could it be that you are also at fault, in a particular situation? Should you ask someone for forgiveness? Be still and take time to seek the Lord and search your own heart. God will reveal the truth to you, if you are open to listening to His voice.

Of course we need to keep things in perspective. Making a decision not to pass judgment on someone else does not mean we should have a relationship with them. We shouldn’t fellowship with non-believers, be in intimate relationships with them, or associate closely with “Sunday morning”/ lukewarm Christian’s. The Bible tells us to remain equally, not unequally yoked for many good reasons. This does not mean, however, that we should judge others. It is important to surround ourselves with people who are truly walking with the Lord, in order to be sharpened by them and to sharpen them (like iron sharpens iron). Also, God loves for us to be in fellowship with other believers, because it brings Him glory and we were meant to be in community. When we join together, we can accomplish so much for God’s Kingdom, as well. If there are people around you who have one foot in the door for Jesus and one foot out, then I do encourage you to shine your light, talk to them about God, invite them to church, and be there for them when/if they need you. Pray for them and show them love. Still, be careful of the company that you keep, because people who aren’t sold out to God will not help you to grow in your walk with the Lord, may give you ungodly life advice, and could lead you into sin and temptation. At the end of the day, though, no one has a right to judge anyone else (whether they are saved or unsaved).

Anger vs. Sin (part 2)

There is a common misconception that anger is a sin, but this is not Biblically sound. Anger is not a sin. Anger is a natural human emotion. Anger is also an emotion that God feels and is familiar with. Anger becomes sin, however, when people choose to act out in rage, hostility, revenge and so forth. It is not the initial emotion of anger that gets us into trouble, but how we act and react concerning anger. Ephesians 4:26 and Psalm 4:4 give us advice on how to handle anger. “Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath (Ephesians 4:26).” “In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent (Psalm 4:4).”

Ephesians 4:26 tells us to “be angry.” This shows that we have permission to feel this emotion. It then goes on to say, “do not sin.” Although we have the right to feel anger, we do not have the right to sin because of it. Ephesians 4:26 also tells us, “do not let the sun go down on your wrath.” This shows us the importance of resolving thing’s (arguments, disagreements, disputes, and feelings of anger) in a timely manner. We shouldn’t hold on to anger for too long, because it can turn into bitterness, resentment, and un-forgiveness, and when we sin, we allow the Devil access to our lives. “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8).”

Psalm 4:4 clearly explains that anger is not a sin by saying, “in your anger do not sin.” It doesn’t say that anger is a sin, it instructs us not to sin when we are angry. Psalm 4:4 advises, “when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent.” When we experience the emotion of anger, we need to take time to search our hearts through prayer and meditation, asking God to lead and guide us. Allow yourself adequate time to cool down, so that you don’t do or say something you will regret later. James 1:19 says that we should be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Bearing the fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23) and walking in love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) are essential to dealing with anger in a healthy way.

So how does anger turn into sin? In her book, “Be Angry But Don’t Blow it,” Lisa Bevere describes the progression from anger to sin in three words, ready, aim, and fire. “I feel this sequence of words accurately and vividly portrays not only the act of firing but also the progression from anger to sin or, to be more precise, the progression from anger to rage to fury (Lisa Bevere).” Lisa describes “weapons of anger” such as words, thoughts, or actions. It is so important that we deal with why we are upset or angry in a situation, in order to avoid hurting God, ourselves and others in the process through sin. Just look what happened when Cain acted thoughtlessly in his anger. He ended up murdering his own brother (Genesis 4:1-10).

“People become upset regarding areas in which they feel great passion (Lisa Bevere).” When we feel violated by someone or when we feel that they have violated someone we love, then the passion in a certain situation can often lead to inappropriate anger. As we mature in Christ, we will learn how to deal with our feelings of anger without blowing up, hurting someone with our words or actions, or acting in other ungodly ways. Remember that every moment you experience anger and have the choice to sin, you are being tempted. Not only are we tempted by the Devil, but we are tempted by our own sinful nature and fleshly desires. The Bible encourages us that when we are tempted and we pass the test by choosing not to give in to that temptation, then God will bless us. James 1:12-14 says, “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.”

So how do we deal with anger without sinning? Because we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us, we have no excuse for not dealing with our anger appropriately or any other temptation for that matter. Saying, “I couldn’t help myself,” is no excuse for sin in your life or my life, because the truth is, we can help ourselves. Often times, we choose to sin. First, know that God has given us everything that we need to live a godly life; His Holy Spirit, His Word, godly men and women in our lives, etc. Second, be sure to make a mental checklist of your thoughts. What are you thinking about? Sometimes our thoughts can lead us into temptation and into sin. If you have an issue that you are angry about and you mull over it in your mind constantly, then you are setting yourself up to sin (whether in your thought life or in the flesh). Third, know when to let go. Choosing to hold on to anger will lead you to resentment, which will lead to rage and the desire to seek vengeance. Romans 12:19 warns us to leave revenge to God. Also, harboring resentment and rage are the same thing as harboring hate, and Jesus told us that hating others is the same as murdering them (1 John 3:15). Lastly, do yourself a favor and learn to deal with anger appropriately. When it comes down to it, the person you are hurting the most (with unhealthy/ unchecked anger) is yourself. We need to rise above our circumstances and situations and choose not to pick up the offense.

Not only does sin, which comes from anger, hurt others, but it hurts us as well. We need to be aware of roots of bitterness that spring up in our hearts and defile us (Hebrews 12:15). According to Lisa Bevere, “the root of bitterness chokes the nourishing seedlings of the Word of God.” How does a root of bitterness defile us? “Bitter roots cause trouble, and they defile. Something that once was pure is contaminated, tainted, adulterated, and corrupted. Our tender hearts, carefully planted with good seed, are permeated by tenacious roots of destructive and bitter poison (Lisa Bevere).” This is why the Bible tells us to guard our hearts, because our hearts are the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23). In Ephesians 4:31-32 Paul warns us to “get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Paul then goes on to instruct us to love and forgive each other.

So how do we let go of un-forgiveness and bitterness? “The secret to ridding yourself of a root of bitterness is to forgive and release those who have deeply wounded you (Lisa Bevere).” Forgiveness is essential because when we forgive, we open up the floodgates to be forgiven by God for the sins that we have also committed (Matthew 6:14-15). The Bible actually tells us that if we don’t forgive others, then we won’t be forgiven for our sins. We also need to remember that, as Christians, we are waging a spiritual war (Ephesians 6:11-12). When we choose to forgive, we put the enemy in his place and we give glory to God. Lastly, we need to make a choice to set people free. When we choose not to forgive people, we are saying that they owe us some kind of debt. Remember what Christ has forgiven you for, and then choose to forgive and release others from any debt that you think that they owe you. Essentially, when we set others free, we free ourselves in the process.

Anger vs. Sin

Anger is a common emotion that we all feel from time to time. Some Christians may have been taught that anger is a sin, but I am here to clarify that this is not a Biblically sound truth and it is not the case. Anger, in and of itself, is not a sin. It is what might and sometimes does follow the emotion of anger, that can be a sin. It is when we hold on to un-forgiveness, bitterness and resentment in our hearts, create strife, lash out with hurtful words or actions, rage, exude wrath or seek revenge, then anger becomes sin.

In her book, “Be Angry But Don’t Blow it,” Lisa Bevere discusses anger, how anger turns in to sin, how she overcame her own battle with rage, and how people can be set free from sin that stems from anger. I have read her book, and I recommend it to anyone who has dealt with anger issues in their lives (whether within yourself or coming from someone else). In her book Lisa states, “Anger in and of itself is not wrong, but rage and fury escalate it into the dimension of the destructive.” Ephesians 4:26 instructs us to “Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.” Psalm 4:4 also instructs us by saying, “In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent.” We have the right to feel angry. “God gives us permission to be angry. He knows and understands mans inborn capacity for anger (Lisa Bevere).” Still, we should not sin or think that it is ok to sin because we are angry. “There is a fine line between anger and sin (Lisa Bevere).” When we are angry we need to search our hearts, and be silent. Take some deep breaths, pray, meditate and calm down, when you are angry. Talk to God about how to handle situations where you feel angry, and seek His guidance. Even though it may be difficult, when you are angry, choose to bear the fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23) and walk in love, which is patient and kind, and is not rude or easily angered (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

Anger is an emotion that God “is also familiar with (Lisa Bevere).” In Exodus, Numbers, Deuteronomy, Joshua, and Judges (to name a few), we see God’s anger towards people who disobeyed Him and worshiped idols. “The Old Testament records several hundred references of His anger with Israel and other nations (Lisa Bevere).” However, it is also important to note that God is not easily angered, and His anger lasts only for a moment (Psalm 30:5). God is compassionate, gracious, slow to anger, and abounds in love and faithfulness (Exodus 34:6). “He forsakes or turns away for but a small moment then returns to gather us into His arms with great and multiple mercies (Lisa Bevere).” Therefore, if we are angry because of what someone has done to us, then we should imitate God by being slow to anger, and make a choice to “turn away momentarily so we can separate the person from his actions, words, or behavior (Lisa Bevere).” Handle situations where you feel angry with prayer and thoughtfulness, because nothing good will come from sinning in anger and losing your cool. “Once we have stepped aside from the conflict, then we need to ask, ‘Why am I so upset? What is really going on inside me? Do I need to take some time to answer these questions (Lisa Bevere)?” Search your heart and ask the Lord to reveal the answers to these questions. Sleep on it, pray about it, and do what you need to do, in order to act wisely, not hastily. “Godly anger does not reject the person, it rejects his transgression and with a pure and good conscience seeks a moment of solitude to separate one from the other (Lisa Bevere).”

Often times Christian’s feel a “righteous anger,” which comes from the Holy Spirit, out of the desire to see injustice stamped out or wrongs made right. In the end, we need to know that God is the One and Only Judge, and that revenge is His to take. While it is not wrong for us to feel the emotion of anger and express it to God and people who we trust, we need to let go of any grudges that we might be holding and love others. This is not an option. This is what God commands us to do (Leviticus 19:18). No matter what we are feeling, we need to obey God. Romans 12:19 says, “Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord.” This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t make the effort to stop injustice and bring healing and awareness to things like abuse, oppression, human trafficking, etc. We should be revolutionary in our efforts to bring healing and awareness and save lives, but we need to go about doing this without taking revenge or harming people who are perpetuating evil in our world.

“An integral part of being angry and not sinning is knowing when to let go of your anger (Lisa Bevere).” We need to make sure that we don’t let the sun go down on our wrath, like Ephesians 4:26 has instructed. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that when we go to bed angry, we wake up angry. When we end the night with hostility and discord, then we will wake up with our unresolved issue. Not to mention, we give the devil access to our lives, when we sin in our anger by postponing its resolution. Remember 1 Peter 5:8 warns, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” Resolve disputes, disagreements, and feelings of anger within a timely manner, in order to move forward with your life and be healthy. Take time to be still and hear from God. “Allow God to reveal Himself in the midst of your pain, conflict or crisis (Lisa Bevere).”

In her book, “Be Angry But Don’t Blow it,” Lisa encourages us to sleep in the light of God’s truth. Don’t hold on to anger for too long. Resolve your anger within a timely matter. Don’t go to bed angry (Ephesians 4:26). Bear the fruit of self-control and walk in love. Forgive people who have hurt you, and be willing to ask for forgiveness when you sin in anger. Break patterns of unhealthy and unnecessary anger in your life, and choose to move forward. Be still and don’t sin in your anger. Search your heart and ask God to reveal the answers. Don’t give the devil access to your life, through sin. With Christ all things are possible, so rely on Him to help you overcome rage, heal from rage that you’ve experienced, and/or deal with anger in a healthy way! Remember also not to dwell in guilt, when you sin in anger. While it is important to heed the voice of conviction from the Holy Spirit, we also need to embrace the redemption and forgiveness that God offers to us, because of His grace and the shed blood of Our Savior, Jesus.